Love Forgives

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, people are beginning to scramble to try and find that perfect gift to give to their special someone. A box of chocolates, a dozen red roses, a stuffed animal, maybe even a diamond.  In today’s materialistic society, how much you love someone seems to be expressed primarily in how much you can spend before maxing out your budget, or you credit card.

But anyone in a relationship can tell you that love isn’t about getting things. Love isn’t even about how much time you spend together, or the dates that you go on. Love is a word that goes beyond the love letters, the goodnight texts, and the stupid fights that you have. Love is a choice. A choice to put the other person above yourself. It’s a choice to stay committed in the good times and the bad. It’s a choice to forgive.

Love and forgiveness cannot be separated. To truly love, you must forgive, and to truly forgive, you must love.

We often equate forgiveness with something warm and fuzzy.

Truthfully, forgiveness is quite the opposite. Forgiveness can be quite painful when it involves someone you are madly in love with. In a relationship, forgiveness is not “Don’t worry about what you did, I’m fine with it. We all make mistakes.” It sounds spiritual and great coming out of our mouths (or even in that conversation held in your head), but inside there is a struggle with hypocrisy when all we truly feel is an abyss of pain, anger, bitterness, and resentment.

These unchecked feelings can potentially become emotionally, mentally, verbally, or physically murderous. Forgiveness is not being so numb to pain that we are oblivious to reality. In a relationship, when we embrace numbness, our hearts transform into ice. Forgiveness is not forgetting the offense. Forgiveness is not lip service. Forgiveness is a choice. It’s choosing not to inflict the price for the offense.

We are lying when we say we have forgiven but permit unforgiveness to continue rotting our souls. Satan grips and weakens us through unforgiveness. He tightens his grip through a religious spirit that says the right thing while refusing to confront the offense and heal.

But how do you forgive someone who was never supposed to hurt you in the first place? Why forgive them? What about all the damage to your relationship and family? The best answer is that you must, simply because forgiveness was extended to you. Jesus said in  Matthew “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” If you refuse to forgive, you operate in sin and are in covenant with Satan.

These questions and declarations are hard to swallow.  I have found that I battle with unforgiveness the most when I fail to see my own sin. I could not see that my unwillingness to forgive was just as ugly to God as the things I blamed the other person for. The reason we battle unforgiveness is because we can only see the depravity in the souls of others, ignoring the beams in our own eyes. It is only when we realize that we are in need of forgiveness from God that you can truly win against the battle of unforgiveness. I won the battle when I was willing to face the ugliness of my own heart and surrender my heart to God. I realized my enemies were my own flesh and Satan, who loves to work in my flesh. Unforgiveness is a work of the flesh, and it will remain so until you crucify it on the altar of forgiveness.

We struggle to forgive because we justify our rights and inappropriately apply God’s Word. Many of us have declared inwardly or outwardly, “The Bible said, ‘Be ye angry.’ ” We forget the rest of the Scripture verse: ” … and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath”. If we are honest, many of us are angry and sin for days, weeks, months, years. Many of us will carry the sin of unforgiveness to our grave.

Forgiveness becomes a struggle when we seek to please our flesh. We struggle because the Holy Spirit demands that we be like Christ. God is as displeased with unforgiveness as he is with sexual sins, deception, lying, and envy. We must remember that any sin either of us could commit, Jesus paid for at Calvary. Who gave us the right to make others pay for their sin when we did not have to pay for ours?

Due to the gravity of their offenses, we believe we have the authority to execute judgment others. But God would never entrust vengeance into our hands. Why? Our sin-stricken souls will never view those people purely through the eyes of God’s grace. We should be concerned for ourselves when we seek revenge on the people we promised to love, honor, and cherish. Unforgiveness unequivocally implicates the wickedness hidden in our hearts and the depravity of our own souls.

Through many offenses, trials, betrayal, and calamity, I have learned real forgiveness. I have learned that the world’s standards for marriage and relationships are a slap in the face to God. When we decide not to forgive, we call it “irreconcilable differences.” God calls it unforgiveness.

Real forgiveness is threefold:

1. Forgiveness means excusing the penalty for an offense, offering pardon.

2. Forgiveness means renouncing anger and resentment.

3. Finally, forgiveness is a choice. God gave all of us the power to choose.

These definitions are simplistic, but they pack enough power to loosen the stronghold of unforgiveness. As an immature Christian, I thought I had the right to be angry and my sin was justified. It never was.

Over the years, I have experiences very difficult days, weeks, and moments. My heart had grown biting cold, filled with anger, bitterness, and resentment. There was no remorse—I believed I was the victim and my actions were justified. How much pride is that?

But God’s grace is sufficient, and His Word eventually penetrated my heart. I experienced real forgiveness and it released me to forgive. I was on my knees in the bedroom, praying and crying to God about all the wrong that had been done. I knew it was unacceptable for me to be the victim; surely it was unacceptable to God. The next few moments humbled me into a heaping pile of humanity. God put a mirror to my face. He acknowledged my concern, rebuked me for my sins, and told me to repent.

I have learned that forgiveness is a choice. We make the decision to forgive, even if our emotions, feelings, and desires have not surrendered in obedience to God. As children of God, we are to be lead by faith, not feelings. When we make decisions based upon feelings, we give Satan the rope to hang us with. Real forgiveness is demonstrating what Christ did for us on the cross. Honestly, most of us have repeated the cliché “What would Jesus do?” The answer: forgive.

The devil understands the power of forgiveness. He had the opportunity to behold the glory of God and the kingdom of heaven. He has been doomed to hell and is mad and desires us to share his fate. Satan knows that forgiveness redeems and restores relationships.

Satan is employed to steal, kill, and destroy. Unforgiveness opens the door for him to hold us back. Each day we incite harsh words because of offense and inflict the silent treatment, we strengthen Satan’s rope of entanglement. As the sun sets and we nurse anger, bitterness, and resentment, the devil smiles. We have embraced the power of darkness.

Satan is selfish and prideful; when we are unforgiving we act like him. Unforgiveness is laced with pride—which cost the devil the kingdom of heaven. We have been called to loosen Satan’s grip and forgive. When God’s forgiveness is sufficient, it propels us into salvation and restoration.

 

Mabel and Nate Engaged!

So these are about 2 weeks late, but better late than never.

I had so much fun shooting this couple! Every smile and laugh came so naturally, and they were never “awkward” or dull. Great first engagement shoot experience! :)

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Carolina’s Finest

This post is a week overdue, but better late than never.

A week ago I was ending my lovely beach vacation with my Grandmother. We decided to go to a beautiful park called Brookgreen Gardens. It was a photographer’s paradise.

There are so many animals, statues, trees, and flowers that it kept me occupied well into the afternoon.

Bellow are some of my most favorite shots, though certainly not all of them! And as always, please feel free to look, share, and comment (my personal favorite!), but don’t copy or steal my work!

This is a Carolina Fox Squirrel. What really got me was the huge size of this guy! You can’t tell too much from the shots that I got, but he was the size of a small dog. No exaggeration.

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The swamp birds (above) weren’t all that beautiful in my opinion, but the intense eyes and the crisp clean appearance of their feathers against the green did create pretty captivating subjects.

ImageMy most favorite animal to watch was the otter. However, this pair of pups wouldn’t be still long enough to let my camera focus, so the pictures were limited. However I could sit and watch them for hours. They were just so happy, and frequently showed off with back dives and rolls in the water.

The butterfly house was probably one of my favorite shoot locations. There were butterflies everywhere, as is to be expected in a butterfly house I suppose. I was fascinated by the ones that were sucking the juices out of oranges and cantaloupe, so there are a few shots of that bellow. I also had to be sure to capture the moment when a yellow butterfly landed on my Grandma’s arm. (Yellow butterflies hold a special significance to her in particular.)

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Can you say heart attack? This snake was NOT in an enclosure, but instead, was laying on the side walk sunning himself when I rounded the corner and almost stepped on it! Pretty sure you could’ve heard my scream throughout the whole plantation. However, after I realized it wasn’t poisonous, my heart rate returned to normal and I shot a few photos before he slithered away.

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ImageAnd of course you can’t walk through gardens without taking pictures of all the flowers…or the characteristic oak trees with the lovely twisted branches and draping Spanish moss.

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I decided to spare you from viewing the pictures of the statues, which most people don’t get, but I couldn’t resist including these. The last one is my favorite though – the red bird made the shot. :)

I hope that you enjoyed the small sampling of my work! Coming up next on the blog: My first engagement shoot results! So stay tuned everyone. ;)

Life’s a Beach

Today is day 4 of my beach vacation. And I’m in heaven.

After endless school assignments, and the past  two weeks totaling 95 hours at work, I could not be happier to finally have time to relax.

It’s just my grandma and I, but it’s our first time taking a beach vacation since my Papa died back in August. It is bitter sweet coming here and not having my blonde-haired, blue-eyed grandfather with us…the last time I ever saw him alive he was rinsing sand of the bottom of the cooler before heading back home.

However, my Grandmother and I have found things to keep us occupied. Movies at night, sand and sun in the day, and even a nature walk.

Since this is the last week of my photography class, I have also been working on shots for my final exam portfolio.

Bellow are a few wildlife shots that I took in Huntington Beach State Park. All shots are in the original RAW format without editing or touch-ups. Please look, share, and comment, but please do not copy or steal my work! Thanks!ImageImage

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Hope you enjoyed!

…And now, back to my beach chair! ;)